Hello
Guys,
I
hope your day was enjoyable and fruitful!
Let
me greet first my high school friend SARALEE, who keeps on holding on and even
today we’re still good friends, a belated
happy birthday to you! She celebrated her natal day last January 27. I wish
you all the best my dear friend…with all my sincere prayers and wishes!
Mine?
I don’t think so. However, I’m still smiling because life is too short to be
frowning all the time…
Anyway,
I would like to open up something to you in this post. And I hope this can be an
effective relief to what I feel this time.
You
know I was once ashamed to myself because it looked like that I was dishonest
to my very own self in the sense that I didn’t follow my real feelings and the ideas that were in my mind.
I
would admit that I was an approval addict or somewhat a people pleaser. Were we
the same? If yes, perhaps you had experienced the same situations and feelings that I
went through.
You
see I was a person who didn’t like saying no. For the longest time, the word
seemed not even in my vocabulary. Why? It was because I was desperate for people
to like me. When someone didn’t like me, I consequently died within. I thought
there’s nothing wrong with that since I’m just a man of peace. But it was not
like that!
Yes,
there’s something wrong with me. I was not true to myself. I did not love myself.
I had an abysmally low self-worth. I was teaching people that it was OK to
abuse and break my boundaries. I tolerated them. I tried to please everyone in
every way not minding the fact that I can’t please everybody. I was a mess! And
one of the ways of making them love me was to always say yes. I never knew that
saying yes all the time was actually saying no to an abundant life. Thus, I
tolerated all the difficult people and emotional vampires on the planet:
control freaks, drama queens, nut cases, “raged-aholics,” irresponsible jerks, hypersensitive
people, possessive parasites. You name the difficult person, I pleased each one
of them –just to keep peace. But the false peace came with a price: I was
throwing away my inner peace, my self-respect, my self-worth.
And
today what a great realization I have! Finally, I have decided to myself to
take a stand and change my attitude. It is really risky but I believe this is
the right thing to do so that I can be true to myself and toward my neighbours.
Now I know the solution to my problem. It may not be to end the relationship
(though sometimes, it is the solution), but to simply say no in the specific
situations where the person is crossing my boundary lines.
It’s
time to reclaim myself.
I
would not allow again people to trash me.
God
loves me. God created me as His child. God wants me to be happy!
Now,
I am learning to say no…
No to divorce!
God
bless us!
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